**This may be the first in a likely short series about mindfulness and it’s place in my daily life**
As always, the new year brings on introspection and self evaluation for many people – including myself. Honestly, I find myself really doing this a few times a year. I think being introspective is a great thing and to spend some time on deep personal introspection often is important to me.
With social media being so prevalent in recent years many, including myself, have falling victim to the need to make a status update at every single moment. I love keeping up with my friends, and as an introverted home-bodied person I love seeing most people’s daily lives play out. When my friends share their happiest moments, I am there to ‘like’ that status and celebrate with them. When they post their struggles, I offer my support and an ear to listen. But, where should we draw the line when it comes to what we share? We’ve all heard about the ‘over-sharers’ on social media. The ones that explain, in detail, their horrible break up or bout of the stomach flu. We’ve also all heard of the ‘lurkers’ that never post a single thing but drink in every single moment of each dramatic status posted. The key, for me, is finding a balance between the two.
This year I am trying to break myself of the daily habits I had when it came to social media. On January 1st, I posted two posts meant to be inspirational to others that were feeling introspective and wanting newness in their lives. I’d like to continue some more of that. I want to continue to share news stories that touch me, affect me, or that I feel others should be more informed about. I want to share bits of my life, but to be mindful of not only what I am sharing, but also why I am sharing it. Looking back at my Facebook timeline (the form of social media I use most often) I see quite a bit of them are repetitive or update style (doing this, now doing that, next up this… throughout a day updating as I go). Let’s be honest here, no one cares 😉 That’s obvious by the very little interaction on those posts – and that is perfectly okay! To share important and exciting moments is fine for me, but I don’t need to do a day by day diary. It just doesn’t feel like ‘my style’ any longer. That being said, I LOVE reading others posts like that and I am in no way trying to shame anyone away from it.
This also brings to light posts that can be misconstrued as ‘bragging’ or ‘showing off’. I joined in a friends discussion of something similar back around Christmas time when she posted her feelings about the piles of presents under the tree/Christmas morning carnage photos. I think in all honesty most of those are done out of sheer excitement and wanting to share their happiness and joy – not as a “Look at me! Look at me!” deal. I got a bracelet I had been wanting for several years from my husband for Christmas, and yes, I did post a picture of it on Facebook. I used to post book hauls on Facebook as well, and I don’t any longer. I am trying to be mindful of other people’s feelings – and also their opinions (which can at times be downright hurtful). I’m not ‘showing off’ to show how ‘great’ my life is, nor am I doing it to make my life seem better than it is. But, the more I have thought about it that’s another thing I want to try to pull back on a bit. It’s not that I get tons of gifts all year long that I feel the need to share, but I also don’t need to prove anything to anyone for any reason 🙂
This was a lot of off the cuff thoughts pulled together rather quickly today. Like I said before, this isn’t to say that I am judging ANYONE who chooses to do things differently than I do. These words are just my own introspection on my own habits.