Today I would like to touch on something that has been on my mind a lot recently between my newly chosen education/career path and the media.
Lady on Lady Hate.
What sparked this post was a tweet that author J.K. Rowling sent out in support of Madonna after Madge fell during her performance at the Brit Awards last week. For those that didn’t see a clip, Madonna was performing her new single and it appeared she got pulled down off of a platform by the cape she was wearing by one of the dancers. It wasn’t her fault and it was an accident. Madge, always graceful, got right back up and continued performing. The problem is that the world went NUTS with nasty and snide comments about Madonna. I mean, this wasn’t even her fault! Even if it had been, shouldn’t our first worry be for her safety? Shouldn’t we applaud her recovery and drive to go forward instead of reveling in her less than glamorous moment? Well, J.K. Rowling did just that in this tweet:
The sad thing is that it is so very rare to see a woman praising or applauding another woman in today’s world. The media makes it seem that, as a whole, women are kind to each others faces and nasty behind each others backs. Sadly I can think of far more women in my life who fit that than the type of woman who supports and encourages other women, and I blame a lot of that on society and media.
As young ladies we get mixed messages. We are told to be dainty and girly and always polite. But, then we are told to grab life by the sensitive bits and pursue our dreams, and that we can do whatever boys can do. It is entirely possible to be both. You can be driven and kind. You don’t have to revel in someone’s misfortunes. We as humans, by nature, don’t like every single person we meet. There is nothing wrong with that. But to be a ‘Mean Girl’ to someone new in the work place just because it’s fun? To rip apart someone, no matter how famous, who had some sort of misfortune? That’s NOT okay.
So when did it become so ‘fun’ to make fun of others – regardless of if we know them or how famous they are? When did that become the proper thing to do? I firmly believe that hate is a learned action. Just like young girls who see their mothers obsess over their own bodies tend to grow up to do the same, young girls who listen to their mother and her friends tear other women down for whatever reason think that’s the ‘norm’ and ‘okay. Young girls coming home from school in tears because someone bullied them, or way worse, ending their own lives over bullying. It’s not a joke and it’s not okay… yet the meanness continues in our schools and in our media. It is our job to teach the younger generations how to act, and so far friends… we are doing a bang up job at best. But, that is a post for another day.